How It Works

From a referral to a circle that answers

The goal is compatibility, not exclusivity. We select for character — never profession, income, education, age, politics, or status.

Step 1

A member refers you

Someone who understands the culture introduces you — and shares this site so you can decide whether it resonates.

Step 2

A short application

A few written questions about values — your experience with connection, why you want this, what you'll contribute.

Step 3

Coffee with members

Informal conversations with two or three members. Not interviews — a sense of whether you show up emotionally.

Step 4

The circle welcomes you

Existing members confirm the fit by consent. You join a circle that chose you — and that you chose back.

Step 5

A buddy for 90 days

Every new member is paired with an existing member for their first 90 days — someone whose job is making sure you land.

Step 6

You show up

Every two weeks, minimum. Missing occasionally is human; disappearing is not. Friendship grows through consistency.

Gatherings

Intentionally simple. Deliberately unimpressive.

Potluck dinners, shared meals, coffee, walks, conversation — every two weeks, format decided by each circle. No agenda, no presentations, no forced icebreakers, no networking.

"No one eats alone" — any member can post "I'm having dinner tonight, anyone free?"
Celebration calendar — birthdays, promotions, recoveries, new babies, retirements.
Annual retreat — one weekend a year, per chapter: no phones, deep conversation, shared meals, reflection.
The Commitment

Membership is free. The commitment is not.

No dues, no fees, no ads, no sponsors with agendas. Costs are shared organically — the potluck model.

i.Attend gatherings every two weeks.
ii.Show up for members during significant life events.
iii.Welcome and integrate new members.
iv.Respect confidentiality absolutely.
v.Be present — phones away, attention on people.
vi.Contribute generously; never exploit the circle commercially or romantically.
The Fifteen Promise

A formal pledge, made by every circle.

If someone in our circle experiences a death in the family, serious illness, surgery, divorce, job loss, a move, or a personal crisis — the circle shows up.

Meals, visits, calls, rides, practical help. Not because someone organized it. Because that's what circles do.

Sound like your people?

Membership is by referral. If a member shared this site with you, that's your invitation.

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